These are my favorite things…

Happy-Holidays-snowmanHi Readers,

The Holidays.  Just saying that, how does it make you feel?  Stressed?  Joyful?  Maybe a little of both or in between?  For me, I am sad the Holidays are almost over.  It is frightful to know we are on the last day of November when Halloween seemed to occur just yesterday!  However, I am determined to make the best of the rest of the year and I hope you are too.  These are a few of my favorite things at this time of year.

  1.  No more excuses.  Time to spend with the family and days off too.  Don’t you love it?  Not only do you get days off to spend time with family and friends but you get paid for the days too.  Now if you work in retail or other types of businesses where you have to work the holidays, I apologize because this can be a bummer.  I have a co-worker who worked in retail last year and was scheduled to work on Thanksgiving (for black Friday sales).  She will never forget how sad she felt having to work when her family was enjoying time together around the dinner table with relatives she hadn’t seen in quite a long while.
  2. Lot of sales!  I looove shopping throughout the year but items can add up and get expensive real quick.  However, at this time of year just about everything you can think of is on sale at some point.  You just have to watch the ads or check out the stores to catch them.
  3. Bright, twinkly lights.  Who doesn’t love beautiful lights?  Especially when you don’t have to pay for the electricity.  I love driving around with my hubby viewing beautiful displays of animated snowmen, merry Santa Clauses and cute reindeer.  It’s fun and it’s free.  What’s not to love?
  4. A different feeling in the air.  People are generally happier.  They open doors for you and are a bit kinder than they might’ve been the rest of the year.  Sometimes you might even receive a surprise like your favorite beverage paid for before your car hits the drive through window.
  5. An excuse to eat sweets with less guilt.  Yes, I have a sweet tooth.  In fact, I think I might have two or three instead of one.  Hahaha.  This time of year, you can feel a bit less guilty indulging in your favorite dishes though that’s not an excuse to gorge and overdo it!  But your doctor’s Rx is more lenient at this time and he says “treat yourself because you are special.”  You deserve it.  (wink)

These are just a few of the lovely things I enjoy this time of year.  What are yours?

I sincerely wish you Happy Holidays!  May they be merry and bright and filled with much love and laughter.  Till our next chat, take care and be safe throughout this holiday season!

 

It’s the little things..

surprise-happy-birthday-gifts-5Hi Readers,

Just some thoughts on my birthday to share.  You know, as the years pass by, it’s funny how our preferences change.  Just yesterday while my husband was running around trying to buy a gift for me, I realized how I would rather have his company instead of a gift.  Many, many years ago, in my twenties, I wouldn’t have agreed with this thinking and would’ve reached for the present instead but now with bills and responsibilities and duties, things like time are even more precious.  Objects can always be bought but company is hard to come by.

I still love receiving presents, though, but it’s the little things…  A special and unusual color of roses (dusty pink) in an arrangement from a man who means so much to me (when he has very little time to spare), whispered words in my ear of affection, generous hugs, pampering, festive communication in the middle of my day, and loving gestures mean the world to me, especially when coming from those I love.

So, as I sit here at my day job and am receiving a few birthday wishes, I am warmed by the recognition.  I’m also a bit sad with the realization that there hasn’t been any comments on my main FB page but it’s okay because it really doesn’t matter in the end and people have busy lives.  Yes, my birthday is special to me and I love celebrating it and the revelry behind it but… that all passes and then life continues.  So, in the meantime, on my special day, I will do little things to help celebrate who I am and where I’ve been.  And I am looking forward to those things that really matter to me and experiencing them with those I love.  That is the real celebration.

 

Hello

Thank you for being AwesomeHi beautiful people!

 

I am just checking in to say “Hello.”  Not for any other reason but to wish you a Happy Day!

 

Top Ten List

Okay lovely people,

Here’s a list of the ones that made the cut.  The top ten things writers with full time jobs would rather be doing:

  1. Writing
  2. Finishing a book
  3. Publishing a book
  4. Chatting with adoring fans (who doesn’t want to hear how wonderful their books are)
  5. Attending book events as a featured author (these are sooo much fun!)
  6. Land a contract with a BIG Publisher
  7. Signing their books at an author event (of course, with wonderful, adoring fans)
  8. Earning big bucks for their published works
  9. Signing a movie contract for one of their books
  10. More writing

So there you have it!  Writers with full time jobs would rather do pretty much anything besides their full time jobs to promote their book business because their passion is all about books and writing them.

Have a terrific day!  xx

R U Okay?

This morning, Michael asked me, “Are you okay?”

Well, no.  Not really.

I’m worried about Hurricane Irma, the category 5 hurricane that is predicted to hit Florida via Miami at a Category 4.  I feel bad for Miami, though my experience at South Beach with the dangerous, hostile drivers and even on the highway leaves me with a bad taste in my mouth and a distaste for the city.  I would never want to live there but that doesn’t mean I want to see the residents undergo devastation.

I am worried for my roof, not having the luxury of nearby residents to have had a new roof installed on my house.  My roof is old and I don’t know how much more battering it can take.  The thought of going through insurance doesn’t alleviate my fears or worries as that will be a nightmare, in itself, if we undergo damage.  I survived Hurricane Charlie and gave up waiting for a roofer, instead, going my own path and taking on a loan with a well known business to fix the roof on my own accord.  If I had waited- a name on the long line of rosters of people waiting for insurance to fix their roofs- I might still be waiting.

At least I have enough water though I’m sure I won’t have electricity.  Our home is old, built in the 1970’s, and due to this, if anyone so much as sneezes, we lose our electricity.  Hurricane force winds are sure to devastate and I’m not looking forward to sweating like a pig in 90 degree Florida weather.

I am hoping once it hits Central Florida, the hurricane will have the decency to lower it’s category to a 2 or even, God help us, a 1.  We don’t need another Charlie!  And I’d like to keep my roof intact as is… please.

So, I am filling all the pitchers I own with water and even my Keurig, just in case and I’m wishing the storm will turn East and fizzle out into the ocean from where it formed.  And I’m busy transferring our food to my dad’s empty refrigerator in his garage.  Since his apartment’s electricity is tied in to the local fire station, he hardly ever loses power and this is our saving grace.  I’m doling through our food, taking to the re fridge/freezer items which cost the most money:  fish and meat first, vegetables last, in the hopes of saving as much as possible from loss of electric/power.

My husband is cleaning out the gutters, bringing in our lovely statue/decorations, outside furniture and to save precious time, buying bags of potting soil to use as sandbags since it’s rumored people are waiting hours in line to get precious sandbags.  With Irma expected to hit Central Florida Sunday- Monday, we are running out of time and we must work with haste.

This has been an ordeal, finding empty shelves in local grocery stores like the picture below where there was no bread to be bought and collecting water bottles when stores were out.  We ended up being lucky three times over and have three cases of water as a result.

I hope everyone in the path of Hurricane Irma remains safe and I wish for you minimal damage to your beloved homes.

#hurricaneirma  #Irma

Coping in different ways

Tonight I learned that everyone grieves differently.  I probably already knew this but when faced with a short discussion with my dad I realized he and I deal with my mom’s death differently.

My husband and I have had lengthy conversations about what will happen if he passes away before me (hopefully this doesn’t happen).  He knows that I will be “getting rid of all his stuff” immediately, giving it away to charity or something.  I let him know this is not because I don’t love him or that I’m trying to get rid of him.  Oh no.  I love him so much.  But this is how I handle grief.

My mom passed away a little over two years ago though it seems like an eternity to me.  She understood me like no other ever has.  She was my best friend, my biggest fan and my strongest confidante.  She was my rock and I miss her dearly.   And how do I deal with her death?  By ignoring it.  Yup.  That is the only way I stay sane and that is the only way I can go on and survive living while she is up in heaven having fun without me.  I try not to think of her because thinking of her only brings tears and misery and I can’t go to work, on a daily basis, to help people if I am a mess myself.  So, this is my way to deal with the immense sadness of her loss in my life.  One day, hopefully, I will be able to think of her and not tear up but until then, this is the way I cope.  However; this is not the same for my dad~

My dad, who desperately needs to move into a first floor apartment because of his declining health, said to me today, that he can’t move into a smaller place because that would mean he would have to get rid of things and he can’t give up my mom’s stuff.  He said that and then he cried.  You see, my dad never cries because he doesn’t believe in a man crying.  While me, I feel differently.  I think if you have an emotion, let it out.  If you have to cry, do it.  It’s natural and it’s human and you can’t keep these things bottled up or they’ll just resurface again, and again.  He believes in prescriptions to pacify his inner turmoil while I believe prescriptions will only mask the inner pain- much like a band aid covering something temporarily.  In the end it peels off with time and the pain is still there.

But I understand where my dad is coming from and I told him this.  I am only trying to do what best for him but I get it.  In the end, it’s his decision the way he wants to live his life.  He chooses to live his life surrounded by objects my mom loved because it keeps her alive.  Storing these items away would only sadden him and the last thing I want to do is add more pain to his overflowing cup.

So, I guess the lesson is to love everyone while they are here.  Life is so short.  Appreciate those close to you for you never know what tomorrow might bring.  And, to try to understand when people do things differently than you would in the event of one’s passing.  Some create items to remind them of their loved ones, some need to have stuff owned by their loved ones around them while others, like me, can’t have the constant reminders surrounding them.  Everyone grieves differently but in the end, we are all trying to do the same thing:  survive this life to get to the other.

Ladies, you are Awesome!

You know what hurts? When I see women putting up with bad behavior.

 

Just today I saw a post from a friend who was engaged and happy but recently found out her boyfriend cheated on her.  This is very sad but, in my opinion, if he went outside of the relationship without your permission, he is not worth hanging onto.  You deserve better and he or she is out there for you, waiting.  Don’t go back to someone who can’t commit.  There’s too many of them out there and you deserve someone who respects you.

Sadly, too many women go back to broken men and failing relationships, maybe because we are comfortable in a situation we know or understand or maybe because we fear there’s nothing else for us and we’d rather settle for less than to be “alone”?  But the question remains…  Why do we allow people to treat us badly?

Ladies, let me tell you how beautiful you are. I don’t need to personally know you to let you know that you are Worthwhile and Gorgeous!

Don’t ever let any man or woman treat you as less than you are. Remember, it is your choice to remain in a relationship. We make choices every single day of our lives as to who we welcome into our personal circle and who remains within our inner circle.  If they are not treating you like a queen, should they stay?  Would you be better off without them, have less stress, or be able to live the life you want to live without their judgment?  In every circumstance, do what’s best for you because, in the end, you’re the only one that matters.  I know this might sound selfish but it’s not.  If everyone leaves, you should be able to rely on yourself and be happy with yourself.  If you’re not, change it.  You have to be whole before you can let anyone else in.

Remember this saying (that I absolutely love): You teach people how to treat you.

It’s so true and you deserve the best, always!

Have a wonderful day, my friends, and remember how beautiful you are!

#WritersLIfe    #Writing   #WroteToday

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