We make a choice every day

Hi Readers,

Do you know that we make choices every day?  These choices not only affect our life and which way we go on our path in life but they also affect our perceptions and, eventually, our health and well-being.  My friend, Michael, explains it like a map of intersecting, interacting choices:  one leads to another and to another and depending on the specific choice made, it opens up other areas and leads on to other decisions to make.  It’s amazing and complex and a little hard to understand but everything we do has a reaction and all our decisions are interwoven into this very large, stringy ball of electrical twine, so to speak, when you see the whole picture.

All of our decisions affect others and these choices thread our life.  Knowing this and being aware of how short life is, does it really make sense to hold onto grudges or to be unhappy, in any way?

I ask this because this morning, a co-worker, who seems to think I harmed her in some way, couldn’t even spend a few seconds in the break room by me while I was getting my second cup of coffee.  This really surprised and perplexed me to the point of writing this blog.  I think sometimes people lose sight of the overall, big picture.  So, you happen to dislike me- okay- but do you need it to affect your 40 hour work week?  As we know, we spend a majority or our lives at our jobs so do we really need to let such trivial matters, perceptions and judgments cloud how we act and react?

I think it’s interesting how this co-worker thinks she’s done nothing wrong to change the nature of our relationship and blames it all on me when she was the one who actually attacked me, twice.  Despite this, I still like who she essentially is- a human being trying to get through this life, like the rest of us.  The fact that I don’t want to work with her has nothing to do with how I feel she is, as a person outside of work, and even though I prefer not to be in the same area as her in the office because I feel she is always judging me, ready to document everything I do for a negative purpose, I was able to spend the few seconds in the break room while she scrambled to get away.  How crazy.

Is it really worth it to get upset over trivial things when the greater cost could be your peace of mind and possibly, eventually, your health?  One thing leads to another and it can be a negative snowball effect heading in the wrong direction for you just because you are upset, and choose to remain upset, at a particular person.  You can’t change them but you can change how you perceive the “injustice” rendered to you and how you react to it.  We’ve heard this before, again and again, but how many of us actually implement this sound advice into our lives?  It’s hard to do, especially when you feel justified in your anger, but for your own peace of mind, it’s best to let it go and move on with a happier outlook.  Getting hung up on trivialities will not help you when the major life circumstances happen, because they will happen.  If you can’t let go of something silly and meaningless, how are you going to deal with real life barriers that are going to force you to change and adapt so you can move forward?

You choose how you live your life.

Let go of grudges, judgments and negativity and choose happiness, instead.  In the end, does it really matter?  Ask yourself this question and most of the time you will find yourself saying “no.”  If it doesn’t matter, Let It Go.  Navigating through life is struggle enough.  Do you really need to add to your burden?  Be happy and be well.  You deserve it!

Live like someone left gate open

 

When you have too many books..

Hi Readers,
I was doing a Takeover this morning, on Facebook,when I realized I have a lot to talk about- LOL. I have four books out there now but what happens when I have more? A half-hour slot is hardly enough time to talk about the books, share my book trailers, show teasers, and share all my social media sites, much less play any games. I don’t know how authors do it! How do they compact all that information so it gets out to the public?
I usually prefer one hour Takeovers but now that doesn’t seem to be enough time either, especially with the threat of Facebook stopping your posts if you post too fast. This last part really sucks! So, with my pending 5th book being Re-Released in a month and my 6th book in the hands of my Publisher, I’m going to have to figure out a smarter way to share my books but maybe not all of the wonderful info. that goes with it. It’s going to be difficult but I will have to get a new system going the more books that are published because I do intend to keep writing and sharing my stories with the world.
Just an observation and a near future adjustment, as a result.
Enjoy your Day!
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You are Beautiful

This morning, I was at my Doctor’s office for two appointments.  As I finished one up and chatted with the receptionist, I waited a bit for my other to show.  Twenty-five minutes later I was ushered into the Specialist’s office and we had a good talk- upbeat, uplifting with plenty of advice.  She ushered me back to the receptionist desk who said I was cleared to go but then turned to the Specialist and complimented me aloud on my progress.

I was pleasantly surprised to hear the receptionist’s opinion of me.  She said to the specialist, “She’s so cute” stating how my first day in their office I was determined to make a difference and to do something about my situation.  She was proud of me.  I entered the discussion and became lively and animated in the middle of it.  I saw the receptionist turn to the specialist with a nod and a knowing smile.  It made me feel good that my few visits (there’s only been three) to the Doctor’s office made an impression on her.  Until this point I was unaware that she knew who I even was.

It’s funny how our few, brief contacts can make an impact we never knew existed.  Granted, I liked the receptionist and we always laughed together about little things but I didn’t realize she had a high regard for me until today.  For me, I always try to be nice to people who help “serve” me in some capacity.  Whether it be complimenting the person behind the counter for something lovely they are wearing or for how they wore their hair that day to the bigger task of striking up a conversation, I like making people feel better than when I first met them.  I try to do this as much as I can, barring my own mood and time constraints and I do this because I generally like people.  But today was a reminder, not only for me but for all of us, that we make an impact with every contact we make but might not realize it.

** With every person we come in contact with, we can choose to spread joy or unhappiness so why not take a step in making the Earth a happier place and choose to spread love, joy and peace instead of the latter.  **

Those in the service industry or helping professions are often disregarded or taken for granted.  It’s not often they are recognized or even rewarded for the essential service they do, sometimes barely making an income to support themselves or their family.  Take a minute today to make a greater impact and thank someone or compliment them.  Your one generous comment will snowball into several more, adding good cheer to strangers you may never meet.

Sometimes, all it takes is a few loving words to turn someone’s day around for the better.

Take care, my friends.

Thankful

 

Rise above the petty

Hi Readers,

 

You know that one person you have at work?  That one that can make your work life miserable?

If you’re a boss or a supervisor, I’m sure you know what I mean.  You try and try to get a good team together, one that works well and in harmony- one that fits neatly into a well-oiled, teambuilding, efficient superpower machine but you have that one cog that does not want to work with the others.  That one piece of the puzzle that doesn’t want to fit in with the group or the team, unless it’s on their own terms or within their own self-determined standards.  That one that would rather take notes about you, documenting every incident, keeping an eye on all your breaks and lunches to find a way to backstab you, the Supervisor, instead of fitting in and relishing in the extra freedoms the Supervisor provides to everyone in the unit.

That one misfit within the company that wants to blame everyone else for their misfortunes instead of seeing that they, themselves, and their own personality tics might be the cause and the reason for their treatment within the unit and their twisted perceptions of their own sad situation.   No one is untouchable or beyond reproach.  Every one of us has something we can adjust in our lives or within our personality so that we can flow within a group of individuals with strikingly different personalities.  No one is correct all the time or perfect but for some reason there is always that one among a group who feels that way.  Who thinks that they are truly amazing, wonderful, a humanitarian but with an ego the size of the Universe.  That one who does their job well but when you get down to the nitty gritty, when you actually see who this person truly is, you find that what they do is not because they truly care about the customers they work for but it’s all for the purpose of covering their own butt and to receive accolades from their customers.

Unfortunately, when you are the Supervisor, you have to deal with this person while avoiding their spiteful, malicious attacks on your character and trying to manage the others within your team, successfully.  It is really hard to do and their nasty attitude can bring you down, especially when you are particularly stressed or having an off day but the one thing you must understand and realize is that this person will never change because they have no insight and that this person is the way they are with everyone (at least they are consistent) so it is not because of you, specifically that they are so rotten.  They would act this way with anyone who is their supervisor.  So, as hard as it is to do sometimes, you have to remind yourself to not take it personally.  This is especially a hard lesson for me:   a sensitive, loving, kind and gentle person who doesn’t understand malicious, manipulative, calculating people.

To this day I still do not understand why someone would choose to put that much effort or energy into, basically, negative endeavors.

I choose to live my life not worrying about negative things that happened in the past, not harboring bitterness or grief, taking one day at a time and one step at a time being as genuine, honest and as fair as I can be with everyone that I come in contact with.  If something perceived as “bad” happens to me then there must be a reason for it or a lesson to learn in it and then I move on.  I will overcome anything that happens and I don’t have to document little grievances (petty things like a co-worker or the Supervisor going over a few minutes in lunches or breaks) over years of my life to save my job.  I don’t get it.  I don’t understand this logic or thinking.  And it’s a waste of energy and effort I can put forth elsewhere into a more positive outcome as in helping others along my path to become independent, self-sufficient and the best people they can be.

All I can come up with is, is that people like this are internally miserable and damaged somehow and they need help but don’t know it.  Sadly, we have to deal with them in our day to day work life.

So, in the meantime, if you have someone like this in your own life, try to keep your chin up and smile because you deserve the best.  Don’t let these petty little people get you down because it’s not worth your time or your energy to spend an extra second worrying about them and when their next sneak attack upon you will be.

In the end, they will never win despite whatever comes of their negative efforts.

** Continue to live your life with integrity, honesty and genuineness and you will have nothing to fear.  Truth and light will always be on your side.  You will always be the victor.  **

Take care my friends and live your life according to your own truth.

Be your own best self!

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Life of an Author, 4/24/2017

Hi Readers,

So, I’m sharing my post on Facebook for my three Guardian League Books.  I’ve been sharing this post since Friday, posting in several groups per day, skipping the majority of Saturday, sharing on Sunday and then today when the inevitable happens-

FB Jail!  Duh-Dum!

You can hear the metal bars locking you in.

“You are restricted from posting into groups until 1:20pm tomorrow” it stated, or something like that.

Arrrgh!!!!!

Every author understands the life blood of their business is marketing and advertising. So, how is an author supposed to make it if they keep getting stuck in FB jail?  It makes me wonder about programs like Hootsuite- if they might be a better alternative.  If you’ve used it or used any other programs, I’d love to hear about your experiences.  I’ve heard pros and cons about Hootsuite.  When it comes to promoting though, sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith and take a chance to find out if it will work for you in your particular circumstance or situation.  I have done this myself, paying for a Virtual book tour in the past with a big Paranormal Romance tour company used by some heavy-hitter, named authors.  Well, it might’ve worked for them but for me, the book tour bombed badly and I will never, ever, ever use them again.

So, here I am, on a beautiful Monday afternoon, clicking away on my keyboard writing my personal thoughts down until I am released from jail tomorrow after one pm.  Hope you are having a lovely day!

 

 

My Weight Loss Journey, Entry 4

 

“The greatest achievements started small.”  Michael

 

Hi Readers,

 

Well, this week, despite my continued sinus infection and eating less than I have in a very long while, I actually gained a pound!  I was not happy about this because I hardly eat anything throughout my days but I figure it’s just one of several setbacks I will encounter along my journey.

I have had very little energy to do much, including writing and editing my books and have seriously considered giving it all up but just when I thought about not writing anymore and leaving my Guardian League series hanging with only 3 out of the 5 intended books for the series published, my friend Michael steps in and tells me the above quote.  I have had great freedom, coming home from my day job to do whatever I want to do instead of throwing myself online to promote my books, strategizing on how to sell more or chatting with my street team; however, I have to admit, I have felt something missing.  Sadly, with this illness I have had very little extra energy to do much anymore.

However, for some reason, Michael doesn’t want me to quit.  I think it’s because my books fuel my passion and vice-versa and he knows that my books are also an outlet for my passion and creativity.  So, in the meantime while I am considering what to do about my author life and trying to feel better so I can be at my optimum, I am juggling with what to eat on a daily basis.  Maintaining is better than gaining but I have so much more weight to lose that it’s hard not to consider this past week a setback.  However, I am trying to keep a positive outlook on this situation and consider this past week a temporary, not permanent, glitch in my journey.

So, as I start another week on my journey, full of hope, my wish for you is that you, too, achieve great things this week.  Even if you can only spare a few minutes each day, take some time to appreciate the wonderful person you are and do a little something to reward yourself for getting through this challenging life, on a day to day basis.

Take care and have a wonderful week!

 

TK Lawyer

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My Weight Loss Journey, Entry 3

 

Hi Readers,

Well, I am on to another week and still “sick as a dog” with this sinus infection turned into upper respiratory infection….  Good news is, I have my sense of taste back.  Yeah!  Not so good news is my appetite isn’t… though I think it’s slowly creeping back in.  This last part, though, isn’t so bad after all because I know when my appetite does return, it’ll be harder to control my diet.  For now, I am enjoying the freedom of not being so hungry and, as a result, being able to eat a bit more at my one big meal per day, which is really great!

So far I have lost a total of eighteen pounds.  Yes, 18 people!!  Isn’t that amazing?  I am so proud of myself and what’s even more exciting is that I am able to fit into clothes that I haven’t been able to wear in years.

Yesterday, I pulled out all my thinner clothes and my hoard of dresses from a second closet I have in the house and I tried each one on.  There were so many I didn’t even remember owning, but I now fit into.  And the icing on the cake?  I fit into a smaller size pant than I’m currently wearing.  I can actually zip and button the pant but as I like to feel relaxed and comfortable, I’m going to wait a bit to lose a little more before I actually start wearing these pants on a regular basis.  ~*  But I am almost there and it’s a great feeling!

So, now that I’ve lost some weight, I’ve started buying some tops in the Ladies Department – oh yeah.  Where once I had to walk all the way to the back of the store to find items in the Women’s Department in my size, I can now search through the racks up front for clothing.  Amazing.

** I am only ten pounds away from reaching another milestone in my weight loss journey and I’ve been considering what to do once I hit that goal.  I’d like to do something fun and memorable and right now I am in the process of considering ideas for rewards.  It may be something as simple as a mani/pedi, getting my hair colored some subtle but outrageous color (I would love this) or maybe even tickets to an amusement park.  Not sure yet but I do have a little ways to go before I have to decide what to do.

I realize because of the amount of weight I have to lose to get to my goal that this journey may take up to two years to complete but that’s okay.  I am in it for the long haul and ~ hey, I have to live these two years anyway, right?  So why not live it in a healthy way?  Good health= happiness.  That’s the formula.  I’d rather live every day with choices available to me and living a healthy lifestyle affords you the opportunity to expand your choices.

So, here’s to another week.  May it bless us both with amazing opportunities!

Be well and safe.

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